Don’t forget to remember that you are love, loved and lovable, unconditionally


Don’t forget that you are love, loved and lovable, unconditionally

If we do not understand that we are love and the universe is love then we are prone to be hurt when we don’t feel love or loved. If you want more love, clear out what is not love from your life. Is it a memory that is not love or loving or unconditional love? Then clear out that experience.

All you are is love. All that the universe is is love. We get confused and forget that we are love and so does the universe. It is like forgetting our names though. We are still love even though we forget. No need to take an experience that is not love personally.


Don’t be afraid of change; change is good

Do not be afraid of change. What change, often, seems like is the old leaving. When the old leaves we do not understand, in that moment, that it might be leaving room for the new. Plants cannot live with the old, dead leaves as well as they can live when the old is trimmed away. Do not be fearful. Watch as the old falls away and wait patiently for the new to appear. Look at the seasons. If we held onto the old, dead leaves the new, refreshed leaves would not be as encouraged to grow. The old leaves take our energy and time and they leave less energy and time for the new. Let the new growth grow and RENEW.

Do not take your experiences too personally; they are opportunities to heal


Do not take your challenges too personally; they are opportunities to heal

When you heal your pain from a difficult moment in your life you are merely healing a memory. There is no need to take that experience personally. There is a bigger piece of it and it is that you needed to heal and that moment was drawn to you and you to it. There is no need to take the experience personally as though it creates your own personal value. Underneath all of that is a wound that needed to be healed. The experience came to you and you to it so that you can heal. No need to feel less. In fact you should be grateful that the opportunity to heal came to you in such a way that awakened you to the fact that you needed to heal this piece or pieces of you. You are absolutely lovely in every single way without any doubt.

Staying present: giving your pain a moment to heal

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Stay present in order to heal

When you are faced with an opportunity to heal, a challenge, take is as just that (an opportunity to heal). The greater challenge is staying in the moment, focused on healing. It is so easy to forget (or not remember) the wound, past and/or present, and not do the work to heal. There are many modalities that will keep you in the moment:

  • meditation practices
  • yoga
  • journaling
  • talking about it and/or acknowledging the issue (without forgetting about it)

We want to pretend that our pain is not real, but it is real and fantasy does not heal our wounds. Staying present in the pain helps us to heal. So remember to remember your pain and not let it go unnoticed. The more that you can focus on the pain, the memory the more able you are to heal. There will be more on healing in future posts. Let it be known that this is a major subject for people now as many of one’s wounds are staring us in the face like a hungry dog waiting for his/her owner to feed him/her.

How to ask for respect

We are here to say that you are responsible for how you internalize your world. It is not ok to allow people to mistreat you, at all, nor is it your fault. It is ok to speak up when you feel like you have not been treated respectfully. If you want respect, you need to give respect so approach the subject respectfully. Often when people do not respect you it is because they do not have respect for themselves. So if they cannot hear your request for respect it is often because they, themselves, cannot yet respect themselves. Once it is expressed you cannot do anything but constantly, respectfully request respect. However, you cannot expect a person to change how they treat you until they work on loving themselves more.

Take this opportunity to heal


Take this time to heal

When you look at the sum of your life look at the opportunities to grow. What are you supposed to be learning? Do you run into the same people, with the same characteristics, with the same learning opportunities? Look at them as lessons. Once you see the lesson and, most importantly, learn the lesson then you are able to move on. And maybe those same personalities will not be drawn to you and you to them. It is not a matter of them being the “problem.” They help you grow so they may be the opportunity to grow and you might be the only thing, person to heal. It is time to heal. It is a great time to churn out what works and what doesn’t work and, in the process, to grow.

So grow. Take this opportunity NOW.